Couples Therapy
When your relationship is working, everything else in life feels more manageable.
I offer couples therapy in Los Angeles and virtually throughout California and New York
The ones who have just... drifted. Not dramatically, just gradually, until one day they realize they're more like roommates than partners.
The ones who are exhausted. The same fight keeps happening, nobody fully wins, and nothing ever gets resolved.
The ones who are doing okay but can see something big coming, a wedding, a baby, a kid leaving home, and want to get ahead of it.
Which one are you?
The same fight, on repeat You know how it ends before it starts, and nothing ever actually gets resolved.
You've stopped feeling like partners The connection is still there somewhere, but it's gotten buried under logistics, stress, and just getting through the week.
Everything falls on one person The division of who does what feels chronically unfair, nobody says it directly, but it's there in every interaction.
You disagree on how to parent You love your kids but you're not aligned on how to raise them, and it's bleeding into everything else.
You want to feel close again Not just coexisting, not just functional, actually connected.
You want more joy in the relationship Not just less conflict, but actually looking forward to being together.
What we tend to work on
Couples therapy with me is active. We're not just talking about what happened during the week -- we're actually working on the dynamic in the room, in real time, together.
I draw on:
The Gottman Method research-backed tools for breaking conflict cycles and rebuilding connection.
Attachment theory understanding what each of you brings from your own history and upbringing.
Solution-focused approaches building on what's already working, not just excavating problems.
Both of you are in this equally. Most couples are reacting to each other faster than they can think. We slow that down. Once there's space, each person can get clearer on what they actually need, and then we work on how to share that in a way that builds something instead of starting another fight.
I'm also pretty direct. If something is playing out between the two of you right there in the session, I'm going to name it. Warmly, but honestly. That's usually where the real work happens.
What happens in the room
A quick call first. Before anything, we have a short call so you can ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and make sure it feels like a good fit.
First session together. Both partners come in. We talk about what's been going on, what you've already tried, and what you're hoping to get out of this.
I meet with each of you individually. Early on I meet with each partner separately to get a fuller picture, your family history, your upbringing, what you've carried into this relationship. That context shapes everything.
Ongoing sessions. We meet together regularly and actually work on things, in the room, in real time. Not just recapping the week.
We revisit goals as we go. Therapy isn't static. As things shift we adjust what we're working on so we're always focused on what actually matters right now.
What to expect
Ready to get started?
Send me a note
contact@mercedesoromendiaphd.com
(818) 860-2864